Today we are going to have a look at a derogatory label that gets bandied around a bit. The "gold digger".
There are women in the world who enjoy a life of abundance. As such they pursue and date wealthy men exclusively. "Rich" is one of their criteria for a potential partner.
Lets have a look at reality. We live in a diverse world, a world where there are people who strive and are successful in a million variations of existence. The very definition of "success" changes as it is thought about by every unique person. One of these instances of success is the reality of abundance, of the wealthy. Such a reality has its own pressures, its own ups and downs. Just have a look at any gossip column if you think people who live in opulence live a totally charmed life. The reality is starkly different.
Being rich is not for everyone. Personally, I'd prefer a fulfilling life with my family than give the priority and commitment to career that many of the wealthy have. But that is just me. In our amazing world of difference and variety, there are people who can only exist with the benefits and pressures of such an existence. Living in such a reality is what brings out the best in them and is the reality where they can be "whole".
So why is it then, when someone understands themself, knows that this type of lifestyle is the one they need to be the best person they can be and goes out to find a partner who has a similar view on life, they are labelled a "gold digger". Its just silly. Once again, it seems people label other people simply because of their own intolerance.
If you are being honest with yourself, if you know what you need to be the best person you can be, just go for it. If in your circumstance, this means finding a wealthy or successful partner, great. Good luck. There are plenty of dating sites out there which cater specifically to your circumstance
So forget the detractors, their opinions usually tell you more about them anyway.
There are women in the world who enjoy a life of abundance. As such they pursue and date wealthy men exclusively. "Rich" is one of their criteria for a potential partner.
Lets have a look at reality. We live in a diverse world, a world where there are people who strive and are successful in a million variations of existence. The very definition of "success" changes as it is thought about by every unique person. One of these instances of success is the reality of abundance, of the wealthy. Such a reality has its own pressures, its own ups and downs. Just have a look at any gossip column if you think people who live in opulence live a totally charmed life. The reality is starkly different.
Being rich is not for everyone. Personally, I'd prefer a fulfilling life with my family than give the priority and commitment to career that many of the wealthy have. But that is just me. In our amazing world of difference and variety, there are people who can only exist with the benefits and pressures of such an existence. Living in such a reality is what brings out the best in them and is the reality where they can be "whole".
So why is it then, when someone understands themself, knows that this type of lifestyle is the one they need to be the best person they can be and goes out to find a partner who has a similar view on life, they are labelled a "gold digger". Its just silly. Once again, it seems people label other people simply because of their own intolerance.
If you are being honest with yourself, if you know what you need to be the best person you can be, just go for it. If in your circumstance, this means finding a wealthy or successful partner, great. Good luck. There are plenty of dating sites out there which cater specifically to your circumstance
So forget the detractors, their opinions usually tell you more about them anyway.
About the Author:
Jayde Johannsen gives complementary dating advice for women and also, reviews on Australian Dating Sites
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